Language of Flowers

Earth laughs in flowers.
Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Hamatreya"


Flowers and bouquets of flowers have language of meaning of their own. Most of us know that a dozen of roses means "Be mine", 3 roses means "I Love You". But did you know, for example that a primrose means "I can't live without you" or a purple hyacinth means, "Please forgive me". And many people think (especially in Malaysia), carnations shows love, care and respect to someone, especially to the mothers. But did you know that different colours of carnations do bring different kind of meanings; some are positive and some are negative one.

Flowers meanings have been used to convey ideas, feelings, and messages for centuries. The word, floriography, has been used for the assignments of meaning to flowers. There is a meaning to colours of flowers, to numbers of flowers, and to groups of flowers. It is a kind of silent language that has been largely lost to us through lack of use.

Here are some of the common flowers that we used to receive or send to friends, lovers or families:

Basil - Best Wishes
Bell flower, white - Gratitude
Cactus - Bravery and Endurance
Carnation, pink - Emblem of Mother's Day, I'll never forget you
Carnation, purple - Antipathy and capriciousness
Carnation, red - Admiration, My poor heart aches for you
Carnation, striped - Refusal, No sorry, I cannot be with you
Carnation, white - Pure love, Sweet love, Innocence
Carnation, yellow - Disdain and rejection
Chrysanthemum - You are a wonderful friend
Chrysanthemum, red - I love you
Chrysanthemum, white - Truth
Chrysanthemum, Yellow - Slighted love Daisy - Innocence, new-born
Daisy - Gentleness, Innocence, Loyal love
Fern - Sincerity
French Marigold - Jealousy
Iris - Faith, Wisdom, your friendship means so much to me
Jasmine - Grace
Lavender - Constancy
Lily, Calla - Majestic Beauty
Lily, Day - Coquetry
Lily, orange - Hatred and Disdain, Wealth, Pride
Lily, white - Majesty and Purity, Virginity
Mistletoe - Affection and Love
Orchid - Magnificence, Love, Beauty, Refinement
Rose, Bridal - Happy Love
Rose, Carolina - Love is dangerous
Rose, Christmas - Peace and Tranquillity
Rose, Coral/Orange - Enthusiasm, Desire
Rose, Dark pink - Thank you
Rose, Light pink - Admiration
Rose, Musk - Capricious Beauty
Rose, Pale - Friendship
Rose, Peach - Let's get together, Closing of the deal
Rose, Pink - Love, Grace, Gentility, You're so lovely, Perfect Happiness, Please believe me
Rpse, Pink & White - I love you still and always will
Rose, Red - Love, Desire, Respect, Courage, Job well done
Rose, Red & Yellow - Congratulations
Rose, White - Charm, Silence, You're Heavenly, Humility, Youthfulness and Innocence
Rose, White on Red - Unity/Flower Emblem of England
Rose, Yellow - Joy, Gladness, Friendship, Jealousy, Welcome back, Remember me
Rose, Yellow & Orange - Passionate thoughts
Sunflower - Homage and Devotion
Tulip - Symbol of the Perfect Lover
Tulip, Red - Believe me, Declaration of love
Tulip, Variegated - Beautiful eyes
Water Lily - Eloquence and Persuasion

With the list above, I hope that i do help u all a bit in assembling meaningful gift of flowers that conveys a complex thought. Of course there are a lot more other kind of flowers which are not listed here. If you want to know more, u can find out here - http://www.flowers-for-you.com.my/flowermeanings.aspx

Enjoy and share the silent language of the flowers!!!

Tattoo

Love is like a tattoo, it's pain...
but a good one will last forever...

Saw this in a Kiaki's blog. This is so meaningful and so true.

Lack of Self Confidence

What are u not confident with? Self ability, outlook, ability to take care of a family, to communicate with people... or watever. As for me, i think there are two....  COMMUNICATION WITH PEOPLE & LOVE

I have problem communicating with people, as I always so scared that I'll say something that will accidently show my weaknesses and embarrass myself. That's why, most of the time, especially when meeting new friends, I'll be very quiet, I won't talk much.

I think I'll need to attend some classes or training to improve my communication skill and learn how to increase my self confident when talking to the others, and present myself better.

The second, LOVE. I think im scare to love, due to many time of failure that i faced regarding love. I had been cheated, betrayed, dumped... these made me lost the confidence about love and became scared to love anymore. The bad experience i had before caused by certain 'bad guys' made me who i am today. I'm hard to trust other people, always feeling suspicious to my partner, friends... How am i going to love again?

I always feel that im not a pretty gal, not a good gal... how am i going to keep my boyfriend by my side? There are so many other gals out there, which is a lot better than me. Will my boyfriend cheat on me? Will he dump me one day for a better gal? I know im just lack of self confidence!! But i cant do anything to change this...

I had been cheated once, made me feel like im a fool!! My best friend betrayed me, took away my boyfriend from me. And there was a guy, suddenly disappeared without any news, and suddenly came back, and then disappeared again. Gosh!!

How am i going to love again even there's a really good guy standing in front of me, waiting for me to nodd my head, to tell him that... I love him too??

New Friends

My friend, Matthew who I met in Facebook (we met twice and this is the third time) always told me that he wants to introduce his friend to me. He's like a matchmaker, telling me how good his friend is, and he wants us to meet, to make friends...

So finally, today Matthew invited me to a karaoke session with his wife and friends (including 'him'). Before the meet up, this guy had added me in his Facebook. Actually Matthew did arrange a few meet up before but I did not be able to attend due to some work in the office or home. So this time, I told myself, "Well, no harm to know a new friend!". So, finally I attended.

I was an hour late as I went to visit my grandma and got home late, then the accident that caused the jam on MRR2, and finally I waited so long to get a parking. When I was there, I felt awkward in the room as I'm the only stranger there. I tried so hard to relax myself and enjoy the moment but I was really so not used to it. I think this is one of my weakness when comes to socialize. After struggling hard for the 2 hours session, finally we all left, but moving to a mamak stall to continue the second round 'yamcha'. It was still the same, I was so quiet, didn't talk much and tried so hard to join their conversation. Well, I think I really tried my best already.

Finally after another one and a half hour, I got the chance to excuse myself to go home. Even though the whole night I really felt awkward as I was surrounded with people that I met the first time, except for Matthew, I'm glad to be invited to join them, and I'm glad to know the new friends.

And this guy... I don't know... so far I think he's OK, we can be friends. But I don't know what about him. :)

How to Not Fall Too Hard for a Guy

A great article to share with u all. It's bout 'How to Not Fall Too Hard for a Guy'. Hope this sharing can help girls out there to be stronger.

Do you find yourself falling for guys quickly and getting your heart broken often? This guide should help you learn to keep your heart to yourself and only give it to someone you love at the right time. These steps are here to help you out when you think you've found "the one" or just someone who simply catches your eyes.

Steps:

1. Keep it to yourself. When you see a guy you think you really like, don't tell anyone for at least a few weeks until you're sure that you have feelings for him.
2. Find out who he really is. Looks aren't everything. First, be-friend him, or at least talk to him and see if he's worth falling for. Has he had a girlfriend before? Why/why not? Why didn't it work out? Or does he still have a girlfriend? You should definately back off if they're taken. This could lead to a horrible situation.
3. Keep your eyes open. He's not your boyfriend! You're still allowed to like other guys too. Make sure you have plenty of back-up crushes. This way, your heart won't be to occupied with just one boy.
4. Take it slow. What's the rush? Don't simply blurt out your feelings for him. Slowly send out signals that you're interested. Coming on too strong will just freak him out.
5. Flirt! Flirt with who you like, who you really like, or anyone else. Flirting with different people will keep your heart distracted and it's an fun way of telling someone you could be interested.
6. After getting to know him well enough, go for it! Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't return the feelings then it's his loss. If he does, mention that you'd like to go on a date. Never be the first one to ask though. That's the guy's job.

Tips:

1. When feelings for a guy start to get too strong, distract yourself with a new hobby and don't stay near him too much. But don't totally ignore him or he'll get confused from the mixed signals you're giving him.
2. Be yourself. He'll like you better. -And if he doesn't like who you are, then why would you want to go out with someone who won't let be yourself when you're around him?

Warnings:

1. Never come on too strong. That will only make your feelings stronger, and the guy's feelings about you weaker.
2. Flirting too much with every guy you know is not a good idea. It will just make people think you're a player and don't know how to stick with just one person.
3. If he's not interested, just move on. The sooner, the better. Trying to get him to like you back or changing yourself for him will never work.
4. Don't ever be too shy around him. Speak up, be yourself. If you're too shy for a simple conversation then why would he want to date you?

Good luck to girls out there :)

How to Get Through Valentine's Day Being Single

I found an article on How to Get Through Valentine's Day Being Single. I wish to share this with the singles out there... :P

Here u go:

There's no doubt about it, what kind of day is Valentine's Day without someone you love loving you back? It's like Christmas without good food and presents, it's just not right. With the red hearts and chocolate advertising in stores left and right even a few weeks before Valentine's Day, it's completely hard especially knowing that thousands of couples will be soaking up Valentine's Day full of love, and being single just won't cut it. Hopefully, this article will give you a few things to do the big V-day, so that you can feel just as happy as other couples.

Steps:

1. Chocolate. Who says you need someone to buy it for you? Get a box of chocolate and enjoy it. [Extra Piece of Information: Chocolate releases endorphins in the brain to make you feel good! So a little chocolate will actually improve your mood and make you feel better.
2. Send yourself roses or a fun candy bouquet. Order the set a couple weeks before Valentine's Day. Sign the card "From A Special Admirer." and send it for you to get on Valentine's Day. Even if you remember it's you who really sent it to yourself, it will still make your day.
3. Spending time with those you love. Instead, spend time with different kind of love - your friends and your family. See a movie with some friends, eat dinner at the local diner with a handful of family, whatever you do, love is love, and Valentine's Day is there to represent it. You don't need to be in a romantic relationship to enjoy V-day.
4. If you just got out of a bad relationship, a great idea of what to do for yourself is, make it a "Pamper Day"or a "All About you day". Go spend some money on yourself. It's good to be a little selfish now and then. And when you see those red heart decorations or you hear a love song, think of yourself, and how much you love yourself.
5. Don't feel sorry for yourself. This will just make the day depressing and dreaded. Instead, be excited for this day. After all, it only comes once a year! And it's still a holiday!
6. Bake! Try out a fun recipe and spend time on it! And make it a goal to eat all yourself! Try this: Basically, it's a fast 10 minute way of making a cake!
7. Do Something Nice For Another Person. Open a door for someone who needs it, volenteer at a church, buy a rose and give it to someone random on the street, whatever you do, will make you feel full of love inside.
8. Go Visit Somebody. A friend, a relative you havent seen in a while, whoever it is, visit them. Offer to help out a little bit. This is your day, spend it on someone worth spending on.
9. You can also stay inside. This simplest of all solutions is also the most difficult to carry out, if Valentine's Day is in the middle of your workweek or at the start of it—and your supervisor may not appreciate having half her work force call in sick on a busy Monday. But if you’re self-employed, by all means, lock your door, turn off all your lights, and wait ‘til the day is over. Try to avoid this, but if your really this depressed, stay in.
10. Don’t compare yourself to other people. If you’re the type who imagines folks secretly pointing at you on the street and laughing at your single status, you’re spending way too much time measuring yourself against supposedly happy, snuggling couples. Remember: just because a person is partnered up on V-Day doesn’t necessarily mean that he or she is blissed out (or even remotely contented).
11. Use Valentines day as an actively seek a partner day, so many places put on singles evenings so get your girlfriends or male friends together and head for a singles party. Who knows who you might meet?
12. Bad Attitudes really don't help anybody. They make you feel worse and certainly don't make other people want to be around you. Try and find different perspectives to look at so you can feel better. Find things to do, like taking a relaxing bath, reading a magazine, taking a art class. Channel the bad feelings away
13. You might be spending the day alone, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a little relationship imagination. Pick up Susan Minot’s novel "Rapture." It’s a story about an afternoon two lovers spend in bed. What the heck, you can spend the day in bed, too!

Tips:

1. If you're depressed because you're single, just remember that, Everything happens for a reason. Fate is a pretty powerful thing, and there are no coincidences. You are single right now for a good reason. Try and figure that reason out. Maybe you're holding yourself back and you just don't know it. Maybe it's time you've looked at your life from another perspectives so that you can open yourself up to a new relationship.
2. Avoid thinking badly about couples. More than likely since you're single, you're going to be thinking "Ohh look at that weird couple.", or point out bad things or odd things about couples because you're jealous you're not in a relationship. You should instead celebrate their love. Think about this just one day, aside from their anniversary, that they get to truly celebrate their love too. Also, Another common thought is "Oh I wish I had a relationship like that.", but you have to think better and realize that you will get that some day. It will just take some time.
3. To make your holiday a little more interesting, mix it up, by watching a Christmas movie, or a Halloween movie, try and remember other past holidays and incorporate it into one. It will take your mind off being single, and it's a great funny fun tip.
4. Working on burning off that extra 5 pounds you put on over the holidays? Think chocolate is out of the question? Think again! Indulge your senses with this delicacy, but not by taste—try touch, sight and smell instead! Lather up with chocolate-bar soap from Amazon, while burning a chocolate-scented candle from Chocolate Sensations and soaking in hot chocolate bath salts available at FindGift. Spritz yourself with a little Tartine et Chocolat perfume found at Shopzilla. Then get cozy and pop in the movie "Chocolat."
5. If you are alone on Valentine’s Day, think of it as an opportunity to focus on the presence of love. Train yourself to love you for once! It’s just as important as loving others.
6. Valentine’s Day is meant for that special someone in your life. Who says that special someone can’t be you? You work hard for the money and, last I checked, St. Valentine wasn’t going steady with anyone. So spend the day treating yourself to indulgences the Saint himself would want you to have!

Warnings:

• Don't miss out on today just because you want to avoid it. Sleeping all day doesn't serve any purpose.
  • Ever heard of Carpe-Diem? [Means Sieze the Day!]

K I S S

Kiss is the touching of one's lips to another place, which is used as an expression of love, affection, respect, greeting, farewell, good luck, sexual desire and etc. Parents kiss their children forehead to show their love or to comfort them. In western countries, people greet one another by kissing on the cheeks.

There are many kinds of kisses; Butterfly Kiss, Earlobe Kiss, Eskimo Kiss, Freeze Kiss, Melt Kiss, Fruity Kiss, Hickey Kiss, Tiger Kiss, Vacuum Kiss and many more... and of course the most popular kiss is the French Kiss.

However, according to BBC News (http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/asia-pacific/7772902.stm), there was a case happened in Guangdong, China last year, a young Chinese woman of 20-something was left partially deaf following a passionate kiss from her boyfriend. When she arrived at the hospital, her left ear was completely lost the hearing. The doctor who treated the girl in hospital explained, the kiss reduced the pressure in the mouth, pulled the eardrum off and caused the breakdown of the ear. A strong kiss may cause an imbalance in the air pressure between two inner ears and lead to a broken eardrum. Anyway, the young woman was expected to regain her full hearing within about 2 months.

Sounds scary?? Hahahaha... becareful the next time you kiss your partner/spouse. You would not want to hurt him/her or even yourself, right?? LOL!!!

Funny & Touching Story

Today I felt very boring and I browsed through the internet using StumbleUpon. I found this, and I think I would like to share this with all of you. Hope you'll enjoy...

"An old Italian gentleman lived alone in New Jersey. He wanted to plant his annual tomato garden, but it was very difficult work, as the ground was hard. His only son, Michael, who used to help him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and described his predicament:

Dear Michael, I am feeling pretty sad because it looks like I won't be able to plant my tomato garden this year. I'm just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. I know if you were here my troubles would be over. I know you would be happy to dig the plot for me, like in the old days. Love, Papa

A few days later he received a letter from his son.

Dear Papa, Don't dig up that garden. That's where the bodies are buried. Love, Mic

At 4 am the next morning, FBI agents and local police arrived and dug up the entire area without finding any bodies. They apologized to the old man and left. That same day the old man received another letter from his son.

Dear Papa, Go ahead and plant the tomatoes now. That's the best I could do under the circumstances. Love you, Mic"

Back in Year 2012!!

I just noticed that it's been sooooo long since the last time I updated my blog. I'll be coming back more often, this is my promise :)